To Yoga Mommy
Thank you for your posting. I am sorry for what you have gone through. It seems like those who have gone through a miscarriage - it is like that there is this "hidden grief" that really does not get recognize. Even well-meaningful people can say things, such as "oh, you can have another"; or "it must had been God's will" and other comments like that does not help at all. The loss must be recognized. You also mention about (I can't see your blog in front of me as I write) - but you mention about I believe a friend of yours whose child died at 18. You know, what really helps - what helped me when my two sons died was being given the opportunity to talk about them - sharing memories about them. Bereaved parents have a need to talk - provided they know that the person they are talking to will truly listen to them. It is the same way I believe when a mother loses a child that is still in her womb. She has carried that child; had dreams and wishes for that child. Now those dreams are suddenly broken. And so when a bereaved parent feels that their feelings are being validated; being allowed to say what they want to say - whether it be expressions of sadness; anger; frustration or anything. Just having the opportunities to talk means a lot. Its wrong to suggest to anyone a comment like, "oh, aren't you over it yet?" That does not help at all. Simply being there for them - giving them a hug; allowing them to talk while we listen speaks volumns to the bereaved. I wish you well - and others who have "been there." I invite your comments and others too. ...... alfer7........
Have You Lost a Child through Death?
Hello,
My name is Raymond and I have gone through the death of two of my children - a five year old son back in 1988 and a four year old son in 1992. They both died as a result of a serious illness. I want to invite any of you who have gone through the death of a child yourself, regardless of the circumstances. I would like this blog be a place where we can freely share about our children; our thoughts; our feelings about the grieving process. While we cannot take each other's grief away and we certainly cannot change the past - we can at least help one another so that we are not alone walking through the process of grief. Thank you!
My name is Raymond and I have gone through the death of two of my children - a five year old son back in 1988 and a four year old son in 1992. They both died as a result of a serious illness. I want to invite any of you who have gone through the death of a child yourself, regardless of the circumstances. I would like this blog be a place where we can freely share about our children; our thoughts; our feelings about the grieving process. While we cannot take each other's grief away and we certainly cannot change the past - we can at least help one another so that we are not alone walking through the process of grief. Thank you!
